As we approach manhood it is natural for us to feel a desire for self-identity, to feel that we are a distinct person. It is also natural that we have a desire for a measure of independence. Our parents will likely begin preparing us for the time when we can be independent. How?
No doubt by gradually giving us more responsibility and the privileged of sharing in making certain decisions as to things we will do. They may invite us to express our preference as to certain subjects we will take at school or they may let us take a part-time job.We may be allowed to do our own buying of some of our personal items. But whatever our parents see fit to do in this regard, it will then be up to us to show that we merit responsibility. If we act in a childish way or get "big-headed," then they may have to reduce our privileges until we show our self more of a man.
This desire for greater self-identity and a measure of independence is accompanied by other natural desires. We will feel a need to be appreciated by others for what we are and what we can do. Some youths seek to satisfy their desire for self-identity and 'a sense of belonging' by joining or forming "gangs". But such gangs generally make their own code of conduct, and the facts show that this almost always leads to wrongdoing, at times even to serious crimes. Probably more than any other single factor, bad companionship is to be found at the root of the problem when young men get into trouble.
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